Overcoming Childhood Trauma and

Adult Pain of Sibling Rivalry

Pathways to Healing looks like a personal story.  What can you tell us about it?

Even though this is my personal story, and I understand the loneliness of the experience. I knew I had to be vulnerable again. I still wanted to help and inspire others who may have experienced a similar walk. It all started just with me writing in my journal for years. It was a means of expressing my feelings and trying to find answers to what I was going through and to find some relief.  I did not know at the time that I would be writing a book about my experiences. I started to change in the middle of the situation even when it had not changed, but I was changing, I started taking more care of myself, loving myself again, speaking positive affirmations. I knew I could not do it by myself. I had to allow God to heal my broken foundation, and I knew what that meant. I had to do something I did not want to do which was to be vulnerable.

I had to ask God to help me to change my perception of the situation because it was consuming my whole life. I needed to be restored from the inside out. I needed to know what it meant to be loved unconditionally again. I no longer wanted to be identified by what I had gone through but to identify with what God says about me. So, I found a powerful truth in the scriptures that says: “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well”. Psalm 139:14(NIV)

So, I started to believe this truth, I started to change my mind about how I saw myself and what I had gone through. I shared my story with close friends and for the first time, I saw the power in my story. It was over a long period, that I realised that this could help other people who have experienced rejection that comes from sibling rivalry. Any form of abuse can affect you deeply; your mind becomes unstable and is full of anxiety and fear, your internal dialogue is negative and this also affects your physical health. I also share in detail in the book some of the health issues I had gone through. The scars of emotional abuse are hidden and can have the most power over our lives.

What will readers get out of your book?

Readers will be able to find some necessary tools that they can use to help them walk through the tricky waters of trying to understand and overcome one of the deepest pains you could experience in life – that is rejection from sibling rivalry.

In this book, I will share what I learned from my own experience of overcoming sibling rivalry and it will help the reader understand what their healing journey may look like and to know that they too can find some purpose in their pain. As mentioned, I experienced emotional and mental abuse from a very young age. I had no idea what it was until later in life because it had become normalised. I’ve learned over time that this can’t be left to fix itself, as someone has to decide to change the dynamics that come from the cycle of emotional abuse. 

Do you identify with the following questions?

Do you feel like the odd one out in your family? Are you a dreamer?

Have you experienced difficult relationships? Have you experienced bullying and being blamed for things you haven’t done?

Have you been told that your opinion does not matter, or that you’re too sensitive?

You know you’re different, you know other picked on for being different, and the wounds are on a personal level. You will find key tools throughout this book that will help you navigate through your pain and confusion, and where you’re able to embrace your uniqueness. These tools helped me in my recovery journey. It will take you to a place where you can your experience a clearer understanding and receive your healing if you let it. To be able to forgive yourself, forgive others and start living life to its fullest.

Did anything stand out as particularly challenging when writing Pathways to Healing?

The first challenging aspect in writing this book was that I put off publishing it for years because I was not ready and I was still in my recovery and did not want to share my story. The second was that I wept for my younger self; I don’t know how she got through it, and I applaud her for being so wise and so strong, and to know that her story can now bring hope to others.

What do you like to do when not writing?

I like to dance and laugh with my husband. I enjoy music, watching old movies, comedies. I love reading, cooking and baking, travelling aboard and exploring other cultures. I also run my Events Promotion and Marketing Company, in Bristol, UK.

Where can readers find out more about your work?

You can connect with me to find out more about my work by via my email info@carmencarrol.com or you can also connect with me on all social media platforms.

Readers will be able to find some necessary tools that they can use to help them walk through the tricky waters of trying to understand and overcome one of the deepest pains you could experience in life – that is rejection from sibling rivalry.

In this book, I will share what I learned from my own experience of overcoming sibling rivalry and it will help the reader understand what their healing journey may look like and to know that they too can find some purpose in their pain. As mentioned, I experienced emotional and mental abuse from a very young age. I had no idea what it was until later in life because it had become normalised. I’ve learned over time that this can’t be left to fix itself, as someone has to decide to change the dynamics that come from the cycle of emotional abuse. 

“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Psalm 119:105(NIV)

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful; I know that full well”. Psalm 139:14(NIV)

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